Why I Don’t Love My Fiance

This was a wonderful read! “Loving unconditionally” something we should all practice! What lovely couple, may God continue to bless you! and Good luck in school! Finish Strong!

Michael J. Pittman

In 130 days I’m getting married, and a friend recently asked me why I love my fiancé. I wanted to share a deeper perspective on Amanda and I’s relationship, so before I answered why I love her, I had to first explain to him the reasons I don’t love my future bride to be.

I came to two conclusions:
First is, I don’t love Amanda for what’s on the outside. I know. It sounds cheesy, it sounds sappy. This perspective is not a novel idea by any means. How many times have you heard someone say, “I don’t love you for what’s on the outside. I love you for what’s on the inside.” But that brings me to my second conclusion.

I don’t love Amanda for what’s on the inside either.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are many things on the inside and outside that I love about

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Will you take this Challenge?

I challenge you to do something of value that will benefit the life of someone else.

Whether it would be volunteering at a local shelter, singing to someone, making someone smile. Do something in your community, in your home, that will spark a flame of hope, love, compassion, and watch those flames turn to a fire, a fire that will light up this world more than you can imagine!!

Go on, I challenge you! What are doing in this life that will leave a trail of light, wherever you go and in whatever you do, big or small?

I challenge you, will you accept?

Just some thoughts

Something I learned over the years so simple I wished I would had learned earlier yet glad I know now, is that the people you attract is an outward expression of how you truly feel inside about yourself, if you surround yourself with negative company and do not recognize that the people put in your path are lost themselves and you indulge in negative behavior you become a black hole thinking the world owes you something you lack and continue to take in this insanity.

In my past experience I was bullied at a younger age and some other things have happened in my life, but even when I knew that those people I was around were obviously going through some deeper issues themselves I was drawn to them, because they were easy company and I guess I felt I could relate to them in some ways. Slowly over the years I found myself very unhappy with everything about myself and I mean everything. My hair, my skin, my clothes, my body image, my lifestyle and down to the way I speak. I hated myself, because I didn’t value myself, those people didn’t value me nor themselves. I turned into a black hole and soon the things I had been back-lashed with; negative words, attitudes, I began to dish out to the ones I truly loved and cared about, I had become my own enemy. I soon found myself friendless and trying to make friends all the wrong ways.

Fast forward to now I’ve SLOWLY grown a relationship with God and asked Him to show me things that were not pleasing to Him that were altering how I  chose to live life, and I’m progressing, and not the type of progression that moves upward, that causes too much a of hindrance when we are trying to grow as a better person because when we fail we think we are supposed to keep perfecting moving upward without any mistakes, that’s not the case. No, my progression is more like a continuous hill affect I have my “downs” but then I have my “ups” after all  it’s the downs that that lead to our “ups” in life. I now see that sometimes The Bully inside of us was bullied at one point life and when he bullies he’s just reflecting what has been shown to him.

Recently I’ve seen this expression come up that that when a person tells you what you cannot do they are only saying those things, because someone told them that.  The things we do and say to people are only things we feel about ourselves.  And it has become even clearer no matter how you try to appeal to a person or try to make them see the real you they won’t ever, because everyone sees you the way they want to, not how you want. Even if you read somewhere or here some one say “accept someone for who they are”  yeah, that’s easy to do once we have a formed opinion of that person for ourselves, even after we take the time to know them.  We all grow everyday, we all change everyday even in the slightest ways.  So start thinking I’m going to accept this person for who they are becoming. The only person who sees you for you is YOU and all my believers out there, God, who already knows who we are. All you can do in the amongst negativity from others even yourself is just LOVE, that’s it PURE LOVE. Love the good and things you can’t stand. But first Love yourself, Love yourself first enough you began to appreciate those around you and in turn show them love.  No matter how bad someone has hurt you or you feel low about yourself, make a choice to wake up grateful one day and love will surely will follow after.  When you spread love others began to love back and you will no longer be a black hole, but a person radiating goodness from inside.

And when you were just about to give up…

19 Signs You’re Doing Better than You Think

post written by: Marc Chernoff

 

1. You are alive.
2. You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.
3. You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.
4. You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.
5. You have tasted the sweetness of chocolate cake.
6. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
7. You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.
8. You had a choice of what clothes to wear.
9. You haven’t feared for your life today.
10. You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learned and survived.
11. You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.
12. You live in a country that protects your basic human rights and civil liberties.
13. You are reasonably strong and healthy – if you got sick today, you could recover.
14. You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.
15. You have someone with whom to reminisce about ‘the good old days.’
16. You have access to clean drinking water.
17. You have access to medical care.
18. You have access to the Internet.
19. You can read.

The truth is, you’re doing better than a lot of people in this world.  So remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.

Site link:

http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/11/28/19-signs-youre-doing-better-than-you-think/

Black Gold

 

I went kayaking

I was brave this day, because I have never been kayaking, neither can I swim!

I Love My Job

 2 weeks ago I applied for an job at my university, I work as an assistant for our on-campus food pantry.  Before learning about the pantry I never the knew there were students on campus who were starving. The school I attend happens to be in one of the poorest counties in North Carolina.  This is a tough subject to discuss since hunger hits closer to home than we think, I just feel so overwhelmed with joy that my campus is reaching out into their community and  I only want more people continue to recognize the needs of those around them so they can be the difference in situations like this.  Just recently I had my first student to help this past week, and I was more excited to help this person, but I learned quick that hunger isn’t shy that it shows itself on the faces of those we know and love, I turned around and saw familiar eyes that belonged to a friend I met earlier the previous year.  That day made me more human though, even though I’ll be faced with more situations like that seeing more people I know, I’m there to help those students and they are there to receive help and it what it is, I just have to continue to be aware and stay involved and have an open heart at all times.  I just know I’m so thankful to be helping the student body and community!

The world doesn’t owe you anything

 

This is an article found from http://behindthehustle.com, PLEASE READ THIS!!! and share (:

our 20′s are the building blocks of your championship, so build toward greatness. Don’t fall into a trap of holding a weak mentality, and living your life without passion, purpose, and dedication. The phrase “If Only” is for those who hold fear more than faith, and who put more weight on excuses, than present blessings.

One decision can develop into a habit, and the habits you form create your reality. Here are 10 choices that carry significant weight. Learn to be conscious of the decisions you make so you can do your best to live like a champion:

1. Wearing a mask to impress others. 

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it.  Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are.  So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you.  You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people.  Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.

2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you.

The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find.  A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams.  Do you have people who disagree with you?  Good.  It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path.  Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing.  Read The 4-Hour Workweek.

3. Keeping negative company. 

Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you.  Don’t let them get to you.  They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun.  When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.

4. Being selfish and egotistical. 

A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone.  Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired.  So carve your name on hearts, not stone.  What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.

5. Avoiding change and growth.

 If you want to know your past look into your present conditions.  If you want to know your future look into your present actions.  You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back.  If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.  See the book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business.

6. Giving up when the going gets tough. 

There are no failures, just results.  Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up.  Learn what you can and move on.  The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end.  Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory.  It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.

7. Trying to micromanage every little thing. 

Life should be touched, not strangled.    Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement.  Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight.  Take a deep breath.  When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward.  You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great.  Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not.  It just takes some time to connect all the dots.

8. Settling for less than you deserve. 

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.  Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before.  Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again.  Don’t settle.

9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow.

The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do.  But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.  Read Randy Pausch’s The Last Lecture.

10. Being lazy and wishy-washy.

The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something.  So stop daydreaming and start DOING.  Develop a backbone, not a wishbone.  Take full responsibility for your life – take control.  You are important and you are needed.  It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday.  Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.

(via Marc and Angel | image via AskMen)

by Mary Elainne Dizon

Love Tunnel

 

 

Try Positive Journaling

The more light you allow within you, the brighter the world you live in will be.-

Shakti Gawain

Hope everyone is doing well! I have not posted anything in weeks, what feels like ages! But I have good things to share! While in the local dollar store today I happen to come across this journal in the crafts aisle and without second thought I grabbed it, the inviting cover was just calling for me to open it and write my inner thoughts! But not just any..I’ve been journaling for awhile now but the type of journaling where I jot things down that make me angry or something that’s been bothering me, I think this beautiful cover is sign for me  to start writing beautiful things I enjoy in life, expressing the positives and having a healthy disregard for the negatives (acknowleding but also alleviating) can have a change on our perspectives in life as well!

Here’s a link for tips on ways journaling helps you heal, grow and thrive! (:

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-journaling-tips-to-help-you-heal-grow-and-thrive/

Also, if you’re one to hold to your past  journaling about the present helps you look forward to new things, try taking this 7 question quiz  “Recreate Your Life Story” and start acknowledging negativity in your life with finding ways to let it out and bring in positivity!

http://tinybuddha.com/recreatequiz